Did I make my daughter sick..??
I disciplined chloe the nite before.. after her daddy claimed that i let her get away with lots of things. And let her cry it out.. so bad.. and was really sterned to her.. and not letting her get her way.. and later that nite.. she came down with a temperature.
So did i make my daughter sick..?? by disciplining her..and making her cry so hard.. and loud.. and not picking her up.
My spouse and I were having our dinner.. after feeding chloe with her supper.. and giving her milk for the evening. But she wanted to climb up the sofa.. and get onto me.. as usual.. but because of what my spouse said to me.. a few nites ago.. i lashed out on Chloe.. and told her to stop! And that she was getting me into trouble.. for letting her behave so badly.
It almost seems like Chloe understood.. and after crying.. and screaming for about 15mins.. she quietly when to the floor and laid down.. and just look at me sadly..
i wanted to go hug her.. and tell her.. that mummy was wrong.. but i didn’t.. because i refused to let my spouse think i’m letting Chloe get away with murder. So i stood firmed this time… and didn’t even smile at Chloe for a long time.
The next time i carried her.. she was all hot and bothered.. i checked her temperature.. and it was higher than usual. So her fever started.
So did i make my daughter sick..?? did i do the right thing.. by making her know that it’s wrong to keep climbing up the sofa… while mummy was eating..??
*sigh*.. the joys of motherhood..! Now i’m suffering the consequences of feeling guilty..! *sigh*
So did i make my daughter sick..?? by disciplining her..and making her cry so hard.. and loud.. and not picking her up.
My spouse and I were having our dinner.. after feeding chloe with her supper.. and giving her milk for the evening. But she wanted to climb up the sofa.. and get onto me.. as usual.. but because of what my spouse said to me.. a few nites ago.. i lashed out on Chloe.. and told her to stop! And that she was getting me into trouble.. for letting her behave so badly.
It almost seems like Chloe understood.. and after crying.. and screaming for about 15mins.. she quietly when to the floor and laid down.. and just look at me sadly..
i wanted to go hug her.. and tell her.. that mummy was wrong.. but i didn’t.. because i refused to let my spouse think i’m letting Chloe get away with murder. So i stood firmed this time… and didn’t even smile at Chloe for a long time.
The next time i carried her.. she was all hot and bothered.. i checked her temperature.. and it was higher than usual. So her fever started.
So did i make my daughter sick..?? did i do the right thing.. by making her know that it’s wrong to keep climbing up the sofa… while mummy was eating..??
*sigh*.. the joys of motherhood..! Now i’m suffering the consequences of feeling guilty..! *sigh*
March 31st, 2005 at 3:16 am
Hey, don’t ever blame yourself. You have to be firm, though she may not understand it now. You can tell her it’s wrong but also tell her you still ’sayang’ her. Give her a big hug. *hugs* from Auntie DBW too.
March 31st, 2005 at 3:23 am
Thanks DBW..
it’s hard.. and i’m sure you know it..! it’s like a tug a war .. with my heart.. 
and yes.. i did give her a big hug.. but she got very wary of me.. and wouldn’t smile for the longest time. I will give her a big hug for Auntie DBW…. thanks..:)
March 31st, 2005 at 5:02 am
oh dear, i’m guilty too! i tend to pick up my baby girl everytime she wants a hug. Babysitter said i spoiled her liao! but if i look back at No.1, she turn out ok mah. it’s just a phase they go thru. my 2 kupang…
March 31st, 2005 at 6:01 am
Thanks Belachan,
Very comforting to know .. that my chloe will prolly turn out ok.. heh!!
March 31st, 2005 at 4:05 pm
Hey MrsT, you can’t make Chloe sick just by leting her cry for some minutes la. Don’t beat yourself up please. =D And it’s definitely understandable why it’s tug of war for yr heart. I mean, just reading yr description makes Chloe sound so adorable even when she’s being naughty. =D I bet I gave my mum a hard time too since I was also an adorable kid. wahahhaa… And look at me! I turned out fine/sane… hehe
March 31st, 2005 at 4:53 pm
Hey..Gracie,
You say the sweetest thing.. and i’m sure you are right.. but it’s hard as a mom.. and one that ones to be a good one… for my childhood wasn’t The best.. so i just wanna be half decent for Chloe…
March 31st, 2005 at 10:03 pm
Ohhh.. great I can finally leave a comment …
I cld relate to you Mrs T. Esp, when they give you the BAMBI EYES … your heart softenes.
March 31st, 2005 at 10:37 pm
Hey.. Janice,
I’m glad you know how i feel.. heheh!!;) they are so small. .but they are THE Boss..!!
April 1st, 2005 at 3:00 pm
i am sure you didn’t make her sick. but i am not so sure what you want chloe to learn from the crying… not to climb up the sofa to get onto you? stop doing things when mommy says so? and i am not sure if she is clear about that… in any case, 15-minutes crying did no harm…
April 1st, 2005 at 3:38 pm
Hey.. Min,
I wanted her to learn.. that i wasn’t gonna give in to her.. just because she was being fussy.. and crying.
It really was the hadest 15min for me.. i’m a pansy.. when it comes to disciplining chloe..
You have to come help me .. sometimes..